typealice

1 | Michelle

May 19th, 2008 at 7:16 pm

We had S when E was only 19 months old, and I think it worked out better than it would’ve had he been between 2-3. Many of my clients seem to have huge adjustment issues with Kid 1 when they are 2-3 and a new baby comes along! My boys are close; yes they fight like the dickens but the closeness is such a great thing in so many ways, big and small. Plus if you are having only two, you kinda get to get on with the big kid stuff all at once, which is nice for family activities. If you wait, four is WAY EASIER than 3 - 3 is worse than 2, I think. But I feel as if a 4 year gap is more like two separate only children, you know? Maybe not.
If we have a fourth, I’m going to try and get pregnant when C is about 12-15 months, to make them no more than 2 years apart if we can. Many women can nurse through pregnancy, but I couldn’t, so that way C gets at LEAST a full year before the supply might taper off…. If he continues through, awesome! and then he can tandem if he wants to.

2 | Rana

May 19th, 2008 at 8:02 pm

Only one more is an option? you really shouldn’t say this—you’re going to be jinxed into having twins!

Since i don’t have children, i’ll just share the age difference in my family
3.5.3 for my siblings
3 years for my nephews next door.
only child for my other nephew.

If he had a bunch of cousins to visit everyday, then they might as well be ash’s siblings. That’s the case for Hunter (2.5) and Tyler (2). Different mommas, but they fight as if they’re brothers!!
My 5-year old nephew is alpha male, so he and Tyler don’t really fight because cody is the boss….until they’re teenagers.

*Rana

3 | beck

May 19th, 2008 at 10:16 pm

Heya!

I know exactly what you’re going through! I want my children two years apart (Jax and Ash are exactly a month apart) so my husband and I have decided to start trying again towards the end of the year.
At first I was really nervous about the whole thing but I have really gotten used to the whole idea and I’m starting to look forward to it!

I also have compications during pregnancy and although it’s a little bit harder, with the medical advancements these days there isn’t a lot that can’t be controlled with careful management. I had Gestational Diabetes and Cholestasis which is considered high risk enough to be induced at 37 weeks or even earlier if it’s severe but… I also had a natural birth and a beautiful healthy child

My reasons for having more children are similar to yours… I have one sister who is 8 years younger than me and all through my childhood I longed for a brother/sister.

Family is the most important thing to me in the whole wide world, mainly because I lacked one growing up (with a father I met when I was 12 and since then probably once a year if that) and I feel very fortunate now to have such a wonderful husband and son I just want more and more! Selfish reasons really but I’ve got a whole lotta love to give

Whatever you decide will be the right decision for you but you’re such a great mum by the look of things that I think you’d be a great mum of two. Plus you make such beautiful chiildren it would kinda be a crime to stop at one

4 | typealice

May 20th, 2008 at 4:37 am

Only one is an option due to the increased risk of sicker and sicker babies with each pregnancy. If I had twins… gosh, I better not have twins!

I don’t know how many we’d have if there wasn’t another factor to take into it… probably just two anyway.

5 | Kirsten

May 20th, 2008 at 9:22 am

Before I had my son I always wanted my kids to be super close in age (18-22 mo apart), as my sister and I are only 20 months apart. Now that Christopher is turning one, I can’t imagine having another baby now- I am having so much fun with him! My husband and I have pretty much decided to wait until he is two before we start trying, so there would be about a three year difference in between them.

6 | Kris

May 20th, 2008 at 4:08 pm

I starting having the longing to have another baby when Noah was about three. It’s only gotten worse in the last year and a half. My hubby and I just got married about a week and a half ago, and I would be happy with starting to try for a baby (my second, his first) now… but he wants to wait until we get a house, which will be at least a year. Also, we want to go on a honeymoon for our first anniversary, so I guess it would be smart to wait until next summer to start trying.

My sister is eight years younger than me, and I’ve always wished we were closer in age… since she’s still in high school, we aren’t very close anymore. I don’t want that to happen with Noah and Future Baby. Looks like they will be at least six years apart, though. *le sigh*

Oh, and four year olds are totally easier than two year olds. And much more fun! At least I think so.

7 | ambera

May 20th, 2008 at 4:33 pm

Liz was having a heck of a time getting Connor and Eric to get along. Connor was two when Eric was born, and by 4 and 2, Connor would beat him over the head if he had to to keep Eric away from his toys.
Growing up closer together is a good option. Plus, another little Ash? C’mon, that’d be so awesome!

8 | Tim

May 22nd, 2008 at 3:10 pm

My sisters are I are all 4.5 to 5 years apart, and I think it’s a bit too much of a gap, to be honest.

I’d say 2 or 3 years apart works best for sibling’s being able to bond well and relate to one another. (from what I’ve seen)

9 | Poppy

May 29th, 2008 at 10:59 am

My sister and I are almost 4 yrs apart and it wasn’t until we were adults that we really became close. Growing up I just looked at her as a PITA. She was too young to truly be an ally or a friend. The things she was interested in were so yesterday to me and the things I was interested in were above her head.

My first two are 2 yrs. 9 mos. apart to the day. It worked out really well. The oldest was thoroughly potty trained, no regression when #2 came along thankfully. Not having 2 in diapers I’m sure was a blessing. They were both boys so I think that also helped them be very close. The next child was my step son. There was/is 3 yrs. between him and son #2. They were and remain best of buds. Then the last child and only girl came 3.5 years after the step son. By that time the step portion was all gone and he is son #3. He and the daughter are extremely close. She is also close with son #1 (ten yr. age difference) not so much with son #2 (seven yr. age difference).

In my experience an age gap of 2-3 is just the ticket.

10 | typealice

May 29th, 2008 at 6:20 pm

That’s great information. I think you’re absolutely right about that age gap. No more than three years for us, IMO. Might be easy if we adopt our next one!