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21 May, 2008

Leaving BME

Posted by: typealice In: Gillian| Links

I’ve left my “home” on the internet recently. For eight years I’ve been a part of IAM/BME and it’s been an enormous part of my life. More enormous than I’m willing to admit, actually. It’s been my source of entertainment and support, my employer for the majority of 2005 and it has been more important than any other website in my entire life.

I know I sound lame to those of you who don’t get it (Hi, Mom!), but this really is a huge deal for me. I had lots of friends on the site and lots of people following my life and my family’s life for years and their support is what helped me through a lot of things. The mothers I’ve met on there are better than any mothers I have in real life, and without them I wouldn’t be the mother I am today- I’m sure I’d have Ash in a crib and have a collection of many strollers, and I would likely never have heard of Attachment Parenting.

The thing that prompted leaving IAM was that the creator of the site, Shannon Larratt, was bought out by his ex wife. Faced with enormous debt from legal fees, I can only assume it was the only option for him, because I know his love for that surpassed most everything else in his life. How could it not? He’s been into body modification since a child and owner of the site for I don’t even know how long. The mid 90s? Crazy. It just didn’t feel right being there without him.

Rachel has openly shown her dislike for me, and been extremely disrespectful in an public IAM forum (and other places, but I will not mention those) to me and for that reason and others, I do not want to be on her turf.

On a side note, I think it will benefit other areas of my life to let go of something that consumes hours of my days, every day.

So, that’s that. Interestingly enough, when I posted my final entry I got an automated message that my account was now “free” for some reason. My account wasn’t due to expire until April 9, 2009, but now I guess it will never expire? Interesting, considering I didn’t do anything to deserve a free acount. I was mentioned in ModBlog once, I wrote over a dozen articles three years ago for BME/News and have submitted a few images and videos and that’s basically it. Whatever.

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One of the reasons I’ve stuck around this long is because of the mommy forums. I didn’t want to say goodbye to the women who’ve shaped me as a parent, so instead of continuing to hang out on BME, I decided to start a new site for the moms. Some of the moms I respect the most and had the most influence over me have also left (or will also leave) BME, and some of them will stay (which is totally fine). So, AP Mamas was born. I hope it will gain popularity with other moms from all over the internet because I eventually plan on adding ads and having some revenue generated. If it doesn’t, that’s okay too, because it means I get to keep up with my favorite moms.

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I lost my wallet. IT SUCKS SO MUCH ASS.

8 Responses to "Leaving BME"

1 | miake

May 21st, 2008 at 10:35 am

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i’ve left bme as well. the thing i have always enjoyed most was the way shannons personality and passion came though so well. i always read modblog for his comments more than the pictures!

rachel seems more the business women. i could be wrong but now seems a good time to move on.

2 | J.

May 21st, 2008 at 1:08 pm

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The baby forums I’ve seen, for the most part, are of the “crib/cry it out/not even gonna bother nursing” variety, and I just can’t relate, so I’m very glad to see this new one you’ve created. I just signed up - I’ll see you over there. :)

3 | Danielle

May 21st, 2008 at 3:02 pm

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The whole BME takedown/takeover thing really has me upset. I have loved Shannon and BME for years, since I heard about it back in…. 1999 or so. I’m horrified about everything that has happened and I’m afraid of the things that have happened that nobody (or nobody who isn’t close to Shannon) would know about. If I had a current IAM account I’d be leaving too. Unfortunately, right now I can’t bring myself to stop reading Modblog just yet.

4 | typealice

May 21st, 2008 at 3:43 pm

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miake: who were you on IAM?

Rachel has handled the business side of BME for many years. Shannon has/does have a bad memory and needed someone to do that part of it, and he enjoyed the person-to-person stuff.

J: YAY! I’m so happy you’ll be there!

Danielle: I gave up ModBlog a long time ago- never really got back into it after Shannon came back.

5 | Kris

May 21st, 2008 at 4:29 pm

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I think I’m leaving BME as well. It doesn’t seem real without Shannon at the helm.

I’m glad I’ve started reading this blog, coz I would miss your updates on iam. :)

6 | kristen

May 22nd, 2008 at 7:39 am

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Count me in as another one leaving BME/IAM and grateful for your other blogs, which I love/have always loved reading.

7 | typealice

May 22nd, 2008 at 9:13 am

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I could never give up ALL my blogs! ;)

8 | Tim

May 22nd, 2008 at 3:07 pm

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Well, I guess I’ll be the one to say I’m not leaving IAM/BME due to Shannon’s departure. BME is and has been a huge part of my life for the last 8 years and though I’ll miss Shannon’s presence, I don’t want to lose touch with all the people I know on there. With that said, there seem to be a lot of my friends leaving at this time, which is sad, but I understand.

I’ll still read this blog, Gillian. All my best to you, Clive and Ash.

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I'm Gillian, a Nova Scotian woman with a son named Ash (born 09/07) and a wife to Clive. I am what they call an Attachment Parent; I breastfeed, wear my baby as much as possible, cosleep, cloth diaper and practice elimination communication. I have very strong parenting views. We are raising Ash as an organic vegetarian. I care about the environment and do what I can to reduce my carbon footprint and set a good example for others, especially my child.

I'm proudly drug free, but can't say that I have always been. My early 20s were comprised mostly of travelling- I've lived and worked everywhere from West Africa to the Caribbean. I currently run AP Mamas, a site dedicated to attachment parenting and G Slings, my sustainable sling company.