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04 Jul, 2008

An Explanation: Parenting Beliefs

Posted by: typealice In: Baby| Gillian

Choosing organic:

I choose to feed Ash organic food because it’s healthier for him. He’s growing so much, and you really are comprised so much of what you eat, that I believe this is a very important time to feed him pure foods.

Choosing wooden and cloth toys over plastic:

Plastic scares me. A chemical called BPA is in a lot of plastics (soothers, bottles, the lining in formula cans etc) is in the process of being banned in Canada and stores have already taken those baby products containing BPA off the shelves. BPA is also used in the lining of most cans (Eden Organics is a company that tries not to use it- it’s still used in their tinned tomatoes, but not in their tinned beans, for example). The amount of BPA is still under the “legal” limit, but it’s everywhere. Straight from wikipedia, “bisphenol A is an endocrine disruptor: it is an estrogen receptor agonist, and such agonists can act like the body’s own hormones, leading to similar physiological effects on the body. There is thus concern that long term low dose exposure to bisphenol A may induce chronic toxicity in humans.”

Some of the effects of Bisphenol A include:
-Permanent changes to genital tract
-Changes in breast tissue that predispose cells to hormones and carcinogens
-increased prostate weight 30%
-Reversed the normal sex differences in brain structure and behavior

etc etc

Here’s a great link about companies that don’t use BPA in their plastics.

I also feel that a lot of plastic toys are butt ugly. And also important: they do not decompose, therefore filling our landfills with millions of tons of old plastic.

Avoiding Melamine:

Melamine scares me. Dishes are often made from it, specifically children’s dishes because it’s difficult to break. A few years ago there was a huge pet food scare linked to food coming from China that resulted in animal’s deaths. Turns out, it was melamine that was the cause of it, it had been used as a filler.

Sure, we do not directly eat melamine, so we’re probably safe. However, that’s not good enough for me. There are lots of things that can harm us in a powdered form, but would we make dishes out of it? Take cyanide, for example. Totally fatal. But if we harden it enough, would you use it to eat off of? Doubtful. Again, right from wikipedia: “Ingestion of melamine may lead to reproductive damage, or bladder or kidney stones, which can lead to bladder cancer.”

I’d rather keep away from that stuff.

Delaying solids:

Under no circumstances do I believe that parents should give food to a baby that is under the age of six months. I believe parents are far, far, far too anxious for their babies to start eating solids and THEY are the ones who “seem ready,” rather than the babies. For some reason if parents notice their baby reaching for their food they think it’s because they want to eat when they’re forgetting that babies grab at EVERYTHING. It’s no different, they’re not ready for food- they’re just curious about what’s in the parent’s hands. From kellymom.com:

Health experts and breastfeeding experts agree that it’s best to wait until your baby is around six months old before offering solid foods. There has been a large amount of research on this in the recent past, and most health organizations have updated their recommendations to agree with current research. Unfortunately, many health care providers are not up to date in what they’re telling parents, and many, many books are not up to date.

The following organizations recommend that all babies be exclusively breastfed (no cereal, juice or any other foods) for the first 6 months of life (not the first 4-6 months):

-World Health Organization
-UNICEF
-US Department of Health & Human Services
-American Academy of Pediatrics
-American Academy of Family Physicians
-American Dietetic Association
-Australian National Health and Medical Research Council
-Royal Australian College of General Practitioners
-Health Canada

Most babies will become developmentally and physiologically ready to eat solids by 6-9 months of age. For some babies, delaying solids longer than six months can be a good thing; for example, some doctors may recommend delaying solids for 12 months if there is a family history of allergies.

Further,
-Delaying solids gives baby greater protection from illness.
-Delaying solids gives baby’s digestive system time to mature.
-Delaying solids decreases the risk of food allergies.
-Delaying solids helps to protect baby from iron-deficiency anemia.
-Delaying solids helps to protect baby from future obesity.
-Delaying solids helps mom to maintain her milk supply.
-Delaying solids helps to space babies.
-Delaying solids makes starting solids easier.

I chose to delay solids (just a little bit) because Ash had a very obvious allergy to cashmere. It doesn’t matter if people have allergies to food or pets or pollen- allergies are allergies, and it’s better for the baby to be exclusively breastfed for longer- it decreases the risk of food allergies.

I also believe that people should avoid IDIOT companies like Nestle when they do start solids. IF they start with a cereal, I recommend a company called Healthy Times, which offers organic and whole grain cereals instead of Nestle’s food which offers “rice flour” and a mixture of other stuff that I can’t pronounce and FRUIT JUICES. GARRRRRH.

I believe baby’s first foods should be vegetables like sweet potatoes, avocado or banana. (Note: avocado and banana are also common allergens- linked to latex allergies, so parents should be aware of any allergy symptoms like rash, stuffy nose, diarrhea etc when introducing those foods.)

Ash cannot have oats (gives him diarrhea) (I can’t even eat oats) or banana (gives him a stuffy nose within a couple of hours). We’re following the Joneja food scale pretty closely, so his diet is still very limited. He eats a lot of organic rice and rice noodles, broccoli, melon, carrots, squash and sweet potato. Not much else.

Cereals can be completely skipped. Breast milk is FAR superior of an iron supply than cereals (additionally, a baby would have to eat TEN tablespoons of cereal in order to get the daily recommended intake, and frankly, Ash- at nearly 10 months- still wouldn’t be able to eat that much). More information here at kellymom.

Baby-led introduction to solids:

I found this theory quite interesting. The best link I had to it no longer works (;(), so I’ll use this one to better explain it. Basically- the parent takes a backseat roll to their eating, and allows the baby to choose what to eat and how much. This means minimal spoon feeding. I gave Ash pureed foods for about a month, and then moved on to giving him bite sized foods on his high chair table and allowing him to eat them if he wants to. I have moved up and allowed him to take bites of trees of broccoli instead of chopping it up for him and give him big pieces of melon which he bites bits off and chews it up before swallowing it.

22 Responses to "An Explanation: Parenting Beliefs"

1 | Jenni

July 4th, 2008 at 2:39 pm

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Hi,

I dont have children, i dont plan on having any children any time soon, but I always find your posts like this really interesting and it makes me angry that a lot of other parents don’t do enough research into, well, anything that directly effects them and their children.

If I ever get pregnant i’m going to read all your posts all over again!!!

J x

2 | typealice

July 4th, 2008 at 3:08 pm

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Haha, you’re going to have a LOT to read! ;)

3 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 6:32 am

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This post seems really preachy. :(
I agree that parents need to research more and have their babies best interests at heart, feed nutriciously and keep them safe etc etc but the extremes always leave me with a raised brow.

Unfortunatly, this post didn’t change that.
There is also alot of information saying delayed introduction and underexposure causes allergies. The majority of allergies is also genetic and OVER exposure.

I’m a big fan balance. Hell, my boys ate more dirt and chewed on more dog toys then I’ve ever seen, they don’t have breasts and I won’t mind if their sexual preferences swing both ways … hell, maybe it was their lack of churchy upbringing..

Don’t believe everything you read.

I love babies and children devoted to organic eating, especially local organics, I also agree with living as green as possible.

4 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 6:38 am

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OH NO- There’s plastic in his mouth!
;)

Sorry… making a point while diggin atcha.
Love yous xo.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/typealice/2590776077/in/set-72157602010973456/

5 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 6:43 am

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Woah. I do sound bitchy.

Ok ok…
So my posts really mean.

Love Ash and keep him as safe and loved as possible. Even if that means following everything to a T that anyone ever says…

But if he grows up to be bubble boy- I’ll kick your ass and buy him a great big bubblegum flavoured icecream cone- at the beach, where kids pee in the water, and he may see girls topless and men in speedos, while catching butterflies in nets with plastic handles!

xo.

6 | typealice

July 5th, 2008 at 9:32 am

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Well, I definitely didn’t mean to come off preachy. People asked why I chose certian things, I answered. I could have gone on and on and on, but I didn’t.

I allow Ash to play in playgrounds with lots of dirt and germy swing sets. He shares toys at playgroups and at the library and I hardly ever wash his hands. I pick up food off the floor and let him eat it, I have only ever washed his toys once. I am not scared of germs (I can’t be- because we’re not vaccinating), he is not a bubble boy and I am not that kind of parent.

I do, however, believe that when there are PROVEN toxins in products, I will not purchase those things for my child. He can play with them at other people’s houses etc, but I will not buy him plastic toys.

Ash’s allergies are not genetic, nor are they from overexposure. It’s a learning curve. Everything I’ve read says to keep doing what I’m doing… so that’s what I’ll do.

7 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 10:13 am

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I’m not coming down on you in the least, Gillian. I love the mommy you are!
There are PROVEN toxins in many, many everyday things and just because you don’t think it’s a genetically based allergin, doesn’t mean it isn’t. I wouldn’t drink the varnish which was used to seal my china, but I’ll still eat off them.
It’s also PROVEN that many allergies and deficiencies are caused by non existant exposure to our ancestory.

8 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 10:17 am

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All I’m saying is things aren’t so black and white. I certainly don’t believe that just because I read it in a book somewhere, that it bares all truth.
then again, I don’t understand not vaccinating unless there is a problematic genetic history with it…

9 | typealice

July 5th, 2008 at 11:43 am

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You’re totally right- I don’t know my bio father and neither does Clive, so it could be genetically based, but my intuition says otherwise since no one in our families have allergies.

I just try to keep away from the weird stuff. I was never that kind of person before coming a parent, but as you know, that changes everything.

I have done a lot of research in a lot of things, and made my decisions based on that. I know some stuff works for some people, and doesn’t work for others. But our choices are what we belief are best for our family….

I know you’re not coming down on me (except when you called me preachy ;) ).

10 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 12:35 pm

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G:
But what is it you think the allergies may be linked to?
You mentioned oats, but you get the same reaction- and bananas, which is common in north america.

As far as I know, my children and I have 0 allergies. M can’t have much milk/cheese etc because he has problems digesting it, but I think with him avoiding it so much- it just makes it worse, especially since as a baby/child, he had no problems there… and he has seasonal allergies, as do most in his family.

All we can do is our best. If I had a baby right now and people were taking a certain toy or safety device off store shelves for defects- I definitely wouldn’t want the item and I feel the same way about the plastics after you’ve described them. Avoidence is best- wether or not what you read is true or not, or if the toxins are in such small doses it wouldn’t harm him, or not… I’m just making sure you do realize that babies do get into stuff and stick stuff in their mouths and and and.. so taking necessary precaution is all any of us can do but dont knock yourself out living as though tragedy is around the corner.

When does the plastic thing end, anyway? never? kid neads Lego, dude!

11 | Nicole

July 5th, 2008 at 12:37 pm

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hahaha
ps. who the hell writes need* with an A*-sheash!

You do know that when I get to NS, I’ll be going through your cupboards and making sure all tupperware is glass and you aren’t using ziplocks, right? right!

xo.

12 | typealice

July 5th, 2008 at 4:18 pm

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My tupperwares are all plastic #5, which is a fairly safe plastic. We use ziplock bags, but not for his stuff unless it’s dried goods (less chance of leaching).

13 | typealice

July 5th, 2008 at 4:24 pm

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I’m not anti-plastic, btw, I’m all about plastic awareness. There are safer kinds of plastic than others. HOWEVER, I will keep plastic to a minimum for environmental reasons.

14 | Caitlin

July 6th, 2008 at 5:18 pm

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I’m curious - why no wheat? I think it was in one of your earlier posts, but I thought I’d ask.

15 | typealice

July 6th, 2008 at 5:31 pm

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Wheat is a very common allergen and actually shouldn’t be introduced to any child under the age of one. A lot of parents miss that, though because they’re anxious to feed them goldfish crackers etc.

16 | typealice

July 6th, 2008 at 6:19 pm

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I just wanted to share this link I found in late May:
http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20080527/BPA_testing_080528/20080528?hub=TopStories

The thing that shocked me the most was the statistic for the canned tomato sauce. It has THREE times the amount of BPA in it than the banned baby bottles. I hope that the Canadian government will also ban the use of BPA in canned foods, not just in select baby products.

And I hope the US Government gets their head out of their ass and bans BPA in products as well. So much denial!

17 | Rachel

July 7th, 2008 at 10:52 am

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“It’s also PROVEN that many allergies and deficiencies are caused by non existant exposure to our ancestory.”

Although I am not allergic to any foods, I do have a great deal of environmental ones. I’m pretty sure that my immunologist told me that allergies are developed from repeated exposure to irritants.

Is it really true that genetics can play a role, even without repeated exposure?

18 | J.

July 7th, 2008 at 2:20 pm

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My parenting beliefs are virtually identical to yours. It’s led to many arguments with family members who raised their kids in the 1970s, that’s for sure.

Since I didn’t see it on the list… what is your stance on television viewing for Ash? Personally I am against it, and while it’s difficult at times, the TV stays off if our son is awake. In the long run, I think it’s a worthwhile sacrifice based on the latest studies, however, I know it’s not something everyone can manage (esp. if you have more than one small child!)

19 | typealice

July 7th, 2008 at 2:43 pm

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I don’t really believe in television as entertainment for kids Ash’s age, but I will admit that I have it on in the mornings (when we wake up at 5am) to watch Project Runway. I do read to him while the TV is on though- for nearly that entire hour, so he’s focused on the books and not the tube. The TV stays off until Oprah is on, and even then it’s usually just background noise.

I don’t know what will happen when he’s older.

I am guilty of turning on teletubbies for him about once a week for about five minutes because he enjoys it. I don’t like the flash-flash-flash different camera angles and BOOM KAPOW of kid’s television programs- part of me wonders if it attributes to ADD or ADHD.

20 | Lisa

July 15th, 2008 at 3:05 pm

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How did I miss this great post!? I completely agree with you and I hope you know I will be harassing you a lot when we finally get a BFP!

21 | katie

July 16th, 2008 at 7:56 pm

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have you posted previously about your decision not to vaccinate? i am curious to hear more about that. i know in the US certain immunizations are required before children can attend public school. is that not the case in canada, or are you planning to have ash vaccinated later in life?

22 | typealice

July 17th, 2008 at 12:04 pm

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I’m not ready to comment on it yet because it’s such a contraversial topic.

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I'm Gillian, a Nova Scotian woman with a son named Ash (born 09/07) and a wife to Clive. I am what they call an Attachment Parent; I breastfeed, wear my baby as much as possible, cosleep, cloth diaper and practice elimination communication. I have very strong parenting views. We are raising Ash as an organic vegetarian. I care about the environment and do what I can to reduce my carbon footprint and set a good example for others, especially my child.

I'm proudly drug free, but can't say that I have always been. My early 20s were comprised mostly of travelling- I've lived and worked everywhere from West Africa to the Caribbean. I currently run AP Mamas, a site dedicated to attachment parenting and G Slings, my sustainable sling company.