typealice

29 Jan, 2010

10 Things

Posted by: typealice In: Daily

Hit by Twwly, it’s been requested that I tell you 10 things that you may not know about me.

1. It’s weird being bisexual in such a hetero lifestyle. I was going to write a full entry on this, but that sentence pretty much sums it up. There’s not much more of a hetero lifestyle than being married and a mother. All my friends are straight, married and have kids. It feels very lonely, it feels like I can’t talk to anyone about this aspect of my sexuality. I feel that most of the people who I talk to don’t understand it. I feel like I should suck it up and turn that part of my self off since I’m in a committed and established relationship, but I can’t help but feel like something is missing.

2. I love knowing what the current gas prices are, what the temperature is and what time it is. I have a habit of accidentally looking at the clock at exactly 12:34. At my last job (while I was pregnant) it happened so often that I actually started keeping track of how many days of the week I caught that exact minute without trying. It was a LOT.

3. I want Halifax to legalize having chickens within city limits, because I would love to raise them. I want Ash to be able to see how a garden is grown and how animals are raised ethically as I did when I was a child. There’s a video of my sister and I at a very young age going through our huge garden and pointing out to the camera the different plants, bed by bed. I remember feeling a sense of pride when I was a girl that I was able to correctly identify the small leaves of plants and also the footprints of the wild animals in the snow and mud on our property.

4. I will always regret not learning how to skateboard and how to play the drums. I have wanted dreads for years and years and I’m confident that I will never have those either and I’m sad that I’m “too old” for those things (whether in my head or in reality, whatever, it’s how I feel about them).

5. If I could have a talent, it would be to sing. I have no interest in performing, but I think it’d just be nice to have that ability. When I sing, Ash tells me to be quiet, just like I used to when my mother would try to sing to me.

6. Even though my weight was only this low for a couple of months, I long to be this skinny again. I achieved it by kicking my sugar addiction and smoking a LOT of cigarettes. I was between 125-127lbs and comfortable in my own skin. Coming from someone who’s been close to 160lbs, 125 is definitely the better side of the scale.

signing my autograph I smoked a lot, and I was skinny.

7. I could eat sushi every single day. I love inari, edamame, avocado rolls, “prego” rolls, sweet potato tempura rolls especially.

8. I wear $35 foundation and recently spent $27 on a tube of concealer of the same brand name. My foundation lasts 1.5 years, and I’m usually able to buy it with Shoppers Optimum points. Outside of mascara, all of my other makeup comes from Abbey St. Clare, a mineral makeup company. My favorite toner is by Anointment Natural Skin Care, a local company in Halifax.

9. I’ve only ever had three good haircuts in my life. Two of them by my current hairdresser, and I’m so happy I found her.

10. I don’t have any piercings left.

Tagging: Kate!, Caitlin! (oooh, the double tag!), Jessica and April.

21 Responses to "10 Things"

1 | Twwly

January 30th, 2010 at 5:51 am

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Haha, sorry.

#1! Me, too!

I just bought a little ‘zine about herbal house stuff (”Make Your Place”) and Scott was teasing me about my inner lesbian. (Who is also very, very lonely).

2 | typealice

January 30th, 2010 at 6:01 am

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My inner lesbian is very, very lonely too. I’ve recently met another bisexual girl who is also in a long term relationship with a man, but she’s got gay boyfriends and has been asking me to go out with them, and I feel very lucky to have the chance to get back into that community!

3 | :)

January 30th, 2010 at 7:10 am

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I find being bi in a relationship to be the most difficult emotional challenge. It’s not just the physical. But there are some things you’re just not going to receive from the opposite sex and no matter how much you love someone. The need for that part of your psyche to be engaged just doesn’t go away. I’m hopeful that there’s a way to make it all work but I haven’t found it yet.

4 | Caitlin

January 30th, 2010 at 8:37 am

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Ok, ok, I’ll do it, but I have to know: do I have to tag only women bloggers? Because other than you and Ashley, I don’t really (personally) know any women that blog.

5 | Gillian

January 30th, 2010 at 9:26 am

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Caitlin: I think you can choose whoever you want to. Please choose Shannon!

6 | Gillian

January 30th, 2010 at 9:28 am

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I guess the only way you’d be able to fulfill both parts of your self, bisexually speaking, is if your partner and you decide on some kind of open relationship. Most people I know aren’t into that.

7 | Jules

January 30th, 2010 at 10:34 am

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Super “10 Things”!

Ah, open relationships and bisexuality good topics. I agree it can be confusing (not sure if that is the right word) to be in a long-term committed relationship with a male but remain interested in females. For what it is worth, I question your idea to “turn off”your bisexuality simply given your long-term relationship and super mum role. I wonder if that type of denial or self imposed rigidity can result in long term complications or unhappiness with self that ultimately further challenge one’s long-term relationship. Perhaps a happy and complete person (uh, no I have not accomplished that- yet) is able to embrace all aspects of themselves and celebrate it. Despite your roles as super star wife and mother you are still the super cool individual, Gillian, who is just as super fun as back in the school days when we got into all sorts of fun. And I look forward to more fun antics next time I am back in NS. :)

8 | Jessica

January 30th, 2010 at 6:59 pm

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When I’m no longer pregnant, lets go skating!!

9 | typealice

January 30th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

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Jules: Clive is actually okay with me dating a woman if I so choose to, he is fine with it being something just for me (ie he doesn’t have ulterior motives such as a threesome), but who knows. First, lesbians have zero ZERO interest in girls who are married, so really, I’m pretty much doomed even if he does feel this way.

You’re right though, I cannot turn off my bisexuality, no matter how hard I try- it’s an innate part of who I am, and I start to literally have an identity crisis when I think to myself, “I’m straight” in order to attempt to avoid my feelings/lust for women. I’ve been out as bisexual since I was just 15 years old, after my first serious lesbian encounter with someone who was “bi for the boys.” I even came out to my mother when I was 17 (hi, mom!).

10 | typealice

January 30th, 2010 at 7:05 pm

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Jessica: Are you asking me out on a dyke-date? ;)

11 | Jessica

January 31st, 2010 at 11:06 am

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But Gillian, you have ebay cooties! :p

12 | Jules

January 31st, 2010 at 12:49 pm

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Interesting. Clive’s openness is pretty neat.

On a slightly unrelated topic, a bunch of middle aged ladies in my life (ranging from friends to distant acquaintances) have gone from hetero lifestyles to full on lesbian. In many cases these ladies have gone onto long term female relationships. Some of these individuals have grown up kids. I wonder if they denied their sexuality for so long or just eventually met the right person. It is great to see them happy :)

13 | Make-up!

January 31st, 2010 at 4:31 pm

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What type of make-up/concealer do you use? I don’t think they sell abbey st. clare at shoppers

your skin is beautiful.

and go on the skating “date”! ;)

14 | typealice

January 31st, 2010 at 4:45 pm

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I use Cover FX.

http://coverfx.com/products/naturalfx.php (foundation)
http://coverfx.com/products/concealfx.php (concealer)

Abbey St. Clare is only available directly from the person who makes it, as far as I know. Her suppliers are the same as MAC, and it’s all mineral makeup.

15 | typealice

January 31st, 2010 at 4:46 pm

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And the skating date was a joke. ;) It’s a mommy friend of mine who has a daughter Ash’s age and is pregnant with a little boy. She also works with me at Nurtured.

For now, I’ll just go out with my bi friend and sign up for more gay activities! :)

16 | Twwly

January 31st, 2010 at 10:16 pm

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We’re monogamous across the board. I don’t do girls, therefore he doesn’t do girls, or guys, or whoever. It’s genderless for us in that regard. A person is a person type thing. I don’t feel I am denying myself chicks anymore than I feel that I am denying myself men. It’s just part of monogamy. :)

I do miss that subculture, but I also miss things like survival camping… and opiates and sleeping around. All things I have loved, that are a part of me, but are just no longer an ACTIVE part of who I am.

That’s just me though.

17 | April

February 1st, 2010 at 2:12 pm

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Gillian: WAY TOO SKINNY!

18 | typealice

February 1st, 2010 at 6:41 pm

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April: It’s not actually that far from where I am right now. Another 10(ish) pounds and I’d be back there. Ambera told me I looked skeletal, but I loved it.

19 | typealice

February 1st, 2010 at 6:45 pm

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Twwly: I get that, and I guess that’s what the problem is. I generally do not think that humans – as a species – are very good at monogamy in general, unlike animals like ducks and geese (thanks, google!) who are.

Clive has always “understood” who I am and accepted that, and I appreciate it, even though I don’t act on it. The drunken makeouts I’ve had since he and I got together (five years ago next month), haven’t phased him nor meant anything to me.

If- and when- I do go out with my bi friend, it will be friendship based and only really because I miss that culture. Also, gays don’t talk about parenting, so that’s a huge WIN!

20 | April

February 3rd, 2010 at 5:40 am

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You just said WIN.

21 | Gillian

February 3rd, 2010 at 8:42 am

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April: I know. And I hate myself for it.

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I'm Gillian, a world-traveller turned natural parent. I believe in primal parenting; breastfeeding, baby wearing, cosleeping, cloth diapering, elimination communication, vegetarianism and all things natural. I have very strong parenting views. There's nothing better in my life than my days with my kid. Also: sushi and sweet white wine, skinny jeans and black tshirts, torrents and sugar.

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